Does Happiness Escape U?

What is happiness really? Does it seem to be escaping u? Do u feel there is more negative than positive in ur life? Yeah, sometimes I do also, mostly when depressed. Well, lets take a closer look at what happiness is and isn't.

Are u satisfied with ur life? Is it rushing by to quickly...so quickly u cant seem to even think before something else comes along? Are u gaining more than losing what u want in life? Are u just settling for second best? Really...how satisfied are u? Do u find meaning in ur life? Do u feel good on a day to day basis? We all have the ability to control how we feel IF we are consistent in practicing more satisfying habits of happiness in our lives. Is this an easy task? Hell no. :) There is no way on earth u can control every little emotion or outside influence, and it ticks me off when people say u "should", or if u do this and that u will find eternal happiness. That's unrealistic and a dream bubble waiting to be popped. But...I do believe if u try hard on focusing on u and what makes u happy...well, then happiness, at least for the moment, will be urs.

Being happy has to do with being aware of what is meaningful to u...make a list of it so u can look back at it and modify it as ur life changes, so u can see u do hold happiness in ur hand. People and things will always let u down at some point in life, its sad, but very very true. U cannot rely on others or situations to make u happy...in other words, U have to be the one who makes u happy, money cant do it, love cant do it, etc. I do hope I am making sense here, lol :)

Realize that, over time, the things that made us happy at one point in out lives will fade, and so we need to add other happy things to keep the happy moments in our lives going. We adapt to things like a wedding, a birth, a promotion, etc. So as certain happy times fade, fill it in with other things that make u happy, journal it so u can look back on where u were happiest and maybe recreate it...ur wedding made u happy, then go on a date night with ur significant other, renew ur vows...heck, renew them every year...even the planning for that can be fun and exciting. The birth of ur child made u sing with happiness and heightened emotions...then find ways to feel that again, like doing daycare in ur church, or babysitting. U were promoted at work which was an honor in itself and u were very proud at what u accomplished...then celebrate that with a party every year on that date, ur friends will understand why...or, celebrate by taking urself out for a decent meal, etc. There are many things u can do, u just need to alot time to do it.

The more happiness u draw to u the more creative u will be. Also, learn to relax more, so u can see the happiness that is already around u, even small things can bring happiness, like a nap, reading a good book or going for a drive.

When u are happy u can cope better with stress so during really hard times, take a breather for urself, like taking a bath with aromatherapy.

When ur happy u want to spread it around, so hang out with those that make u happy. Throw a happy party, go out to have coffee, talk about the good going on in ur life. :)

When ur feeling happy, u are more productive in ur job and family life...u get more accomplished which makes u even happier, lol. Ur more relaxed and can see the brighter side of many things.

When ur happy, ur relationships are better. Ur marriage or relationship with ur significant other goes better. Ur children are happier. U make more lasting friendships. I am in no way saying that everything will be peachy, it wont, there will be hard times and if u suffer from mental health issues, it will be twice as hard to be happy when things rock ur foundations. But ur family and friends should understand that is how u are and support u. Being married or in a relationship, having kids and even having friends is a huge commitment...think before u get married how happy this person is...also for if ur in a relationship. Think before u have kids if u will enjoy them, know urself. And if a friend is not bringing some kind of happiness to ur relationship with them, then move to friends that are.

Happiness is just all out better for ur health. Less stress = less diseases. Who wants high blood pressure, anxiety and depressions? Not many, thats for sure. :)

Things that make me feel happiness are: Chocolate, because I love the smooth sweetness. I know I should cut back on it, but its like a comfort food for me...It's one thing I feel I cant give up in a diet. Sucks, but yeah, lol, chocolate and me go waaaay back. :) Nature and the sun make me feel happiest. I enjoy the desert and the warmth. It makes me feel more alive and therefor helps to make me want to do more things. Reading makes me happy because I can escape the real world for a while and be someone else, going to countries I have never been to. Bathing makes me happy because I am clean and smelling fresh. I relax in the tub with epsom salts or scented bath salts. I also like to add essential oils, 10 drops of anything wonderful smelling. Swimming also makes me happy...though I dont really swim, I mainly just do some water exercises...I love, love, love pools. I love traveling to different places, even if its to town. I find it relaxing to be the passenger and to watch the world go by. Shopping makes me happy also. I Love to look for ideas and think on what I need to revamp a room or area in my home. Organizing and having a clean home brings me happiness in the form of calmness. Talking with my bestie on IMVU also brings me some happiness, we talk of our plans and work together on certain things.

Well, thats everything I think on happiness and just some of what makes me happy in life. I hope u enjoyed this read, if so share it with ur friends. Ty and have a spring in ur step happy day. Bye for now my smexy peeps! :)